You Are Not To Blame

Before you embark on this healing journey, it is extremely important to understand that you are not to blame. You did nothing wrong and you are not weak for having accepted less than you deserve.

It can feel as if this pain won’t have an end point, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

You might even blame yourself for it, for being in the situation you are in, because after all that is what you've been conditioned to believe in, right?

That it was always you, if you had just been quieter, less resistant to mistreatment, more accepting of weaponised incompetence, things would be better.

You even tried to do all these things, anything at all to improve the situation, to lessen the debilitating feeling in your chest. Just to breathe normally again and remember what life was like without stress at every interval.

However, you couldn’t stay quiet for long, the silenced anger from your mistreatment would reach a boiling point and you'd let it be known. You would speak up for yourself, but what were you met with? Blame, gas lighting, manipulation and more abuse until you were silenced again.

You were clearly instructed not to dare point out the colossal injustices being committed against you, as there were repercussions you would face if you ever thought of speaking out again.

Your reactions were policed, whilst the injustice against you reigned free.

How could you blame yourself under those conditions? Rest assured, you are not to blame.